I’ve been working on a blog post about polygamy and jealousy. I needed an antonym for jealousy and came across the word compersion.
Compersion means feeling joy when a loved one loves someone else (as contrasted with feeling jealous about their love).
As a plural wife with plenty of opportunities, I’ve considered myself successful when I don’t feel jealous, especially in a situation which in the past might have summoned up negative emotions. If I would have previously felt jealous about something but this time I don’t, that’s a win, I’ve matured, I can do this, bring it on. (One of the benefits of polygamy is character growth, after all.)
But this is news to me: the opposite of “jealousy” isn’t simply “lack-of-jealousy”! Can a plural wife go from feeling jealous to feeling emotionally neutral and from there progress to feeling joy in her husband’s love for his other wives? The very existence of this word makes it seem possible. It takes things up a notch. I just found a higher mountain to climb.
By the way, if you’re like me and haven’t come across “compersion” yet, it might be because it seems to be a relatively new word. It’s probably not in your dictionary, and the oldest quote on compersion’s Wiktionary page is from 1998, as used in a book called Romantic Jealousy, Causes, Symptoms, Cures. Now that sounds like an interesting book!