Plural Thoughts

Essays and thoughts on plural marriage. Topics covered (and ones I hope to cover in the future) are included in the list below.

My own experience and knowledge are limited, and I welcome guest writers and/or regular blog contributors to help fill in the gaps. Contact me if you would like to contribute.  (Many of the posts linked to below were written by someone besides myself.)

• Communication and teamwork in a plural marriage (this post has an interesting analogy; this post has a good example)
• Living arrangements in polygamous families (live together? live separately? pros and cons and things to consider)
• The dating and marriage crisis in the LDS Church
• You can’t get a marriage license for plural marriages, so doesn’t that mean you’re not married? (also see here)
• Why would you want to share your husband?
• The powerful analogy between a-husband-and-his-wives and a-woman-and-her-children (mentioned a little in this post and this post)
• Being the first wife (see here)
• Being the second wife (see here)
• Being the third wife (and beyond)
• How to incorporate a new wife into the family (this post talks about two different ways a first wife tried)
• Polygamy and jealousy (and other negative emotions) – discussed in this post and this post
• Tips on transitioning from being LDS to being a polygamist
• Common pettinesses in polygamy
• Previous marriages and children from previous marriages – Melissa shares in this post some of her experience with children from a previous marriage
• What about sex? (see here and here )
• Difficulties of being a husband of more than one wife – Joshua wrote an advice post for plural husbands
• Why plural marriage is not adultery — also see this post on adultery, and this post and this post on common law marriage
• Why plural husbands are not creepy
• What do the scriptures say about polygamy?
• The LDS Church and Polygamy
  • Was Joseph Smith a polygamist? Does it matter?
  • Problems with Brigham Young’s version of polygamy
  • What was meant by the 1890 Manifesto?
• Abuse in polygamy (and monogamy)
• Divorce and what it’s like when a plural family breaks up: (see here )
• Let’s hear from some children of polygamy
• Loving and helping to raise your sisterwife’s children – Melissa mentions it in this post and Charlotte writes in this post about the benefits of having many parents
• What should be the limit on the number of wives in a family? (What should be the limit on the number of children in a family?)
• Finances in plural marriage (housing expenses mentioned in this post and this post)
• Should polygamy ever be institutionalized?
• Differences and similarities in how Mormon sects (and other religions) deal with polygamy
• Polygamy in the real world versus in the newspaper
• Interacting with LDS Church members and people opposed to polygamy (like your family – see here, here, and here)
• Why I don’t believe everyone should be a polygamist – mentioned in this post and in this post
• When your sister is also your sisterwife
• Time management and priorities (here)

Lots of other posts have been categorized under “Plural Thoughts”.